Ok... here goes... The biggest reason I even have "Reflections" on my web page is to help me with my anxiety problems. My doctor and I have discovered that some of my Anxiety Attacks can be cause by bottling up my thoughts and emotions, not letting it out. Sure, that sounds minor, but in my case, it led to panic attacks and minor social disfunction. So, I decided to write Reflections from time to time to get out my feelings and thoughts.
But, what's the cost of doing that?
When I post my feelings on the internet, they're out there for anyone to find and read. Anyone can see how I feel, what I did, or what I said. The biggest problem, is that feelings are usually centered around other people. So, when I decide to emote, I'm also putting other people out there on the internet for all to see.
Is that right? Well, yes and no. How I feel is how I feel. No one can take that away from me. My feelings are not wrong... they're mine! BUT, is it fair to have the person for whom I have feelings posted on the internet? Is it fair to discuss situations with other people in a public forum without their consent? Can any harm come from any of this? Who knows?
Well, a situation has presented itself...
I'm not going to get into it, because I don't even want this person to be acknowledged (but HE can sure as hell feel free to respond by clicking on the "Comment on this" link at the end of this post). But basically, someone is thinking about using my posts AGAINST a person to whom I've referred. Is it fair? Hell no, it isn't! This person didn't condone, endorse, or even know about my post. The whole reason for my posting was to emote... to get out the feelings I had withheld, NOT to spread situations involving other people.
I've learned that you can't worry about what you cannot control. And I've learned that there are many things you cannot control. BUT, I truly believe that REASON should always supercede EMOTION. If you step out of any situation, and look at the REASON behind any action, it usually makes any kind of decision easier to make.
Think about that, J!!
BTW, I can think about three different J's my message applies to... so, killing more than 1 bird with this stone? Maybe...
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